Wedding Etiquette 101

Wedding etiquette is a set of traditional guidelines that help ensure that weddings are conducted smoothly, with respect and consideration for all involved. Here’s a breakdown of some basic wedding etiquette for different roles and situations:

1. For the Couple Invitations: Send out invitations 6-8 weeks before the wedding. Include RSVP cards or digital RSVP options, and make sure to clearly state the dress code if there is one. Thank-You Notes: Send thank-you notes for gifts and attendance within three months after the wedding. Handwritten notes are a thoughtful touch. Seating Arrangements: Consider the comfort of your guests when creating seating arrangements. Try to seat guests with people they know or might have things in common with. Gifts: It’s not mandatory to give wedding favors, but a small token of appreciation is a nice gesture.

2. For Guests RSVP: Respond to the invitation as soon as possible, whether you can attend or not. If something changes, inform the couple promptly. Dress Code: Adhere to the dress code stated on the invitation. Avoid wearing white or anything too attention-grabbing unless it’s specified (like at a themed wedding). Gifts: Send a gift even if you cannot attend the wedding. The couple typically has a registry, but cash or a thoughtful, personal gift is also appreciated. Arriving on Time: Be punctual. It’s best to arrive at least 15-30 minutes before the ceremony starts. Respect the Couple’s Wishes: Whether it’s a no-phones policy during the ceremony or a request for no social media posts, respect the couple’s preferences.

3. For the Wedding Party Support the Couple: As part of the wedding party, your role is to support the couple. This includes helping with planning, attending pre-wedding events, and being available on the wedding day. Expenses: Be prepared to cover the cost of your attire, travel, and accommodations. The couple may assist with some expenses, but it’s courteous to assume you’ll cover your own costs. Gifts: Even if you’re in the wedding party, it’s customary to give a gift. It can be something small or group-funded by the wedding party members.

4. For Parents Financial Contribution: Traditionally, the bride’s family paid for most of the wedding, but nowadays, costs are often shared between both families and the couple. Discuss expectations early on. Guest List: Work with the couple to finalize the guest list. Be respectful of their wishes and budget constraints. Hosting Duties: The parents often host the rehearsal dinner and may be involved in greeting guests or giving speeches.

5. General Etiquette Ceremony Conduct: Silence your phone and avoid taking photos unless permitted. Pay attention to the ceremony and participate in moments like singing or responding when appropriate. Gifts and Registry: Stick to the couple’s registry if possible. If giving cash, consider using an envelope or card rather than handing it over openly. Social Media: Respect the couple’s social media wishes. Some couples may want to keep their wedding off social media, while others may encourage sharing with a specific hashtag. Post-Wedding: If you’re hosting a post-wedding event (like a brunch), ensure it’s communicated to the couple and other guests in advance. Following these guidelines can help ensure that everyone enjoys the wedding, creating a positive and memorable experience for all involved.